yes, thats okay. you dont need to get your busy on, you need to allow your grieving to get on. after losing a parent you are allowed more than one week of feeling sad and directionless. smooch xx
Normal for the sadness to keep showing up, fading back, showing up again. Getting your busy on sounds like a good idea. And I'll bet I'm not the only one who would love to see some new paintings sometime. Having said that I've probably just missed stuff from not being good at keeping track. Anyhow, Bagman, Butler and I are thinking of you. Bagman mostly, but he doesn't want to get in trouble with anyone else in your life.
Now it is time...... you said so in your last post. You have to make time for sadness. You really don't need to get your busy on. You need to feel. It is time. It doesn't mean that you won't feel this way just because you're busy. The sad should, and will come & go. It's supposed to.
Sad is better than numb. Because at least you can deal with being sad. Numb just delays the inevitable. So, in a sense, you are doing something: being busy feeling, grieving.
Yes, what they said...depression and grief feel the same often but they are sourced in two distinct processes and require two distinct ways to navigate through the deep water. There is deception and aggression both in depression, and there is failure to correctly perceive what is really going on in some crucial way. There is no deception and aggression in grief. Even if you correctly perceive what is going on, this will have no effect on grief. To the extent your grief is pure, you must open wide and let it flow freely. To the extent your grief is handled then what you do for depression becomes the treatment of choice.
To ignore grief is unwise. To shut it down is unwise. Ignoring grief or shutting grief down leads to illness. Letting grief flow is not the same as coddling depression.
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yes, thats okay.
you dont need to get your busy on, you need to allow your grieving to get on.
after losing a parent you are allowed more than one week of feeling sad and directionless.
smooch xx
Normal for the sadness to keep showing up, fading back, showing up again. Getting your busy on sounds like a good idea. And I'll bet I'm not the only one who would love to see some new paintings sometime. Having said that I've probably just missed stuff from not being good at keeping track. Anyhow, Bagman, Butler and I are thinking of you. Bagman mostly, but he doesn't want to get in trouble with anyone else in your life.
Hugs.xx♥
Now it is time...... you said so in your last post. You have to make time for sadness. You really don't need to get your busy on. You need to feel. It is time. It doesn't mean that you won't feel this way just because you're busy. The sad should, and will come & go. It's supposed to.
Sad is better than numb. Because at least you can deal with being sad. Numb just delays the inevitable. So, in a sense, you are doing something: being busy feeling, grieving.
It'll clear the space you need for your new life.
xoxoxo
I know there are exciting things ahead honey but do take care of yourself.
Yes, what they said...depression and grief feel the same often but they are sourced in two distinct processes and require two distinct ways to navigate through the deep water. There is deception and aggression both in depression, and there is failure to correctly perceive what is really going on in some crucial way. There is no deception and aggression in grief. Even if you correctly perceive what is going on, this will have no effect on grief. To the extent your grief is pure, you must open wide and let it flow freely. To the extent your grief is handled then what you do for depression becomes the treatment of choice.
To ignore grief is unwise. To shut it down is unwise. Ignoring grief or shutting grief down leads to illness. Letting grief flow is not the same as coddling depression.
I love you girl.
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