hmmmm

Must be funny energies today. Everyone is quiet and having a crisis or two.
Happens like that sometimes.
I have no crisis....this is much good.
I like a crisisless day occasionally......

I have been pondering on why it is so seemingly important to us that others like us and think we are wonderful ALL of the time.
Does anybody actually know anyone who is wonderful ALL of the bloody time?
I certainly don't.
Me especially!
Why do we set ourselves up with such high expectations of ourselves and yet its okay for others (and even expected) to fall apart and stuff up and be human occasionally?
And why should we expect everyone to like us when we don't like everyone?
And if we are expecting others to never fall apart and to always be some kind of paragon then how fair is that to them?
I know that I, in my life, have often put people on pedestals and thought that the answers to my problems could be found in an outside of myself source, namely, another person who I percieved to be wiser/stronger/smarter/ more powerful than myself. It didn't ever work!
People on pedestals invariably fall off as they too, are only human, like ourselves.
I have eventually come to the conclusion that if I am looking for another person to 'fix' my life then I am looking in the wrong place.
And I am also being extremely unfair to the person I am expecting perfection from.
Nobody can live under that sort of pressure without cracking.
I now know that the answers to my problems lay inside of myself and that I am the ONLY one who can implement change in my life and 'fix' anything up for me.
And that I can only do it for me and not for anyone else.
And my friends are the wonderful people who support me in this and let me be me, warts and all, and love me anyway as I love them for the same reasons.
We help and we teach and we lend a hand, we don't 'save' each other because we can't.
Its a huge thing to come to realise that by setting people on pedestals, we are setting them and us, up for a fall........

Food for thought isn't it.